as i am a staunch believer that the very best gifts in life one can ever receive are all the ones one gives to oneself, i had decided that with this turn of age, i would give myself these five gifts:

๐Ÿงœ๐Ÿฟ‍♀️ no more lavishing men.
in all of my relationships, i had such a very terrible knack of always wanting to fulfill their material wishes in spite of my own financial situation. but when it came to them needing to foot the bill for things or simply to provide financial support to me, it would always be some bitchfest. a blow up. "do you not have a job?" what comedy indeed. henceforth, i shall never again feel compelled to take care of a man financially. if he is a scrub, steer clear. simple as.

๐Ÿงœ๐Ÿฟ‍♀️ live unequivocally unapologetically.
never again will i feel bad for the things that i require, that i know i deserve. i will not apologise for standing up for myself. for making it known that it is not okay to invalidate, bully, take advantage of or overlook me/my needs. the boundaries that i have set in place are for very good reason and never again will i feel bad about enforcing them.

๐Ÿงœ๐Ÿฟ‍♀️ to really advocate open and honest communication in all of my relationships.
this has been proving to be a continuous work in progress because in a lot of instances, the temptation is very real for me to just fall back to what i have been so accustomed to—ghosting or lying. though, i suppose the challenge i find in putting this into practise is because it is still somewhat of a new thing for me. hopefully, (some day soon) it will become second nature.

๐Ÿงœ๐Ÿฟ‍♀️ effectuate zero tolerance for bad behaviour.
if i have made it clear that something is unacceptable then the first time it happens needs to be the last time. in the past i have had the tendency to excuse way too much too quickly and this finally ends.

๐Ÿงœ๐Ÿฟ‍♀️ sever the ties with ex-lovers once and for all.
the past belongs in the past and i have made it clear on multiple occasions that i bear no grudges or ill will, i simply am not of the mindset that ex-lovers are "friends." as neither of us share children, i do not see the need to actively stay in touch and truly could not care less for the details of their newfound happiness. as far as i am concerned, i was never truly appreciated and loved in all of the ways i had wanted to be and there were very valid reason/s for the relationship ending so, what more is to be said and done? nothing. the door is closed.